Changes in Sexual Orientation

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#24

I think “turning gay” is an inflammatory and unhelpful way to address this matter. Even suggesting a fin-derived flip in sexual orientation may be going too far. But an increase in same-sex desire as a result of hormonal upheaval? What’s so unbelievable about that?

The very high view-count of this thread and its comparatively low number of replies leads me to believe that this is subject is at least a concern for many of us. And yet no one wants to talk about it. I think that’s ridiculous. This is the one place where we should be able to speak openly about stuff like this. How much of our shared ailment is considered paranoia and pseudoscience by the larger medical community? Try punching “shrinking penis” into your search engine and see what greets you–“Impossible”, “you’re imagining things”, “you’re just looking for an excuse for your perceived inadequacies.” I myself visited two urologists and the emergency room with that very problem, only to be met with that same reflexive reaction of disbelief and cruel sarcasm. And then I found you guys, and here we all are. And we all know too well that an atrophying penis is an all too real prospect.

So I don’t think we should dismiss anyone’s symptoms as impossible, no matter how initially far-out they might appear–it’ll only discourage them from coming forth and sharing their stories and so ultimately hamper our search for a cure and comfort. Remember that even hair re-growth was once the stuff of snake oil and witchcraft. Don’t underestimate propecia.

Personally, I DID feel an uncomfortable shift in my sexual preferences during the early and most severe days of my post-fin nightmare.To my embarrassment I found that my eyes tended to wander to male passers-by as opposed to females. The idea of having sex with another man, which had never before crossed my mind, crossed it often. As sex was (and is) impossible for me, it wasn’t a pressing issue; but it was still pretty disturbing. I have nothing but love for the homosexual community, but the prospect of becoming gay against my will was unsettling. In time, I recovered a little from PFS and the homosexual thoughts abated. Now I’m just asexual.

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#25

Better is: "I think “turning gay” is an inflammatory and unhelpful way to LABEL this matter.

#26

Slightly off topic, but if there are any gay/bisexual men on this forum who wanna chat, shoot me a PM. I thought coming out as gay was the most difficult form of adversity I’d experience in life. Then I got PFS. I’d love to chat with anyone who understands this, relates, or needs support.

#27

I have just joined this site today and I have to confess to having a huge alteration is sexual motivation. I had these urges and they came and went, often incredibly powerful. I did act on them with an ex-colleague who is gay and grateful at my change of heart. Then the urge dramatically left! This is the first time I have mentioned this to anyone except an understanding ex-girlfriend who was astounded by my confession. What kind of a drug have I been taking?

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#28

I’m gay and I don’t find this inflammatory. I find the prospect of it actually quite interesting. I can’t even imagine having this drug which has already done enough damage to relationship-potential make me hetero. Coming out once was enough. I’m lucky to have more mild effects than most it seems…

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#29

Would you really? I was straight before I started taking Propecia, which I was on for 3 years, I have been trying to maintain my straight lifestyle since I came off it 11 years ago, but like everyone else here, I can’t get or maintain an erection, when I do get an erection it’s partial, and I’ve never been able to father children because I don’t produce sperm anymore. I love my girlfriends but I don’t feel any desire for them sexually.i can’t even jerk off, I don’t get a hardon.

The real sting in the tail is that I started crossdressing the year I started propecia,it seemed like I had always done it, but I hadn’t, a year or so later I started to see men for sex. If I’m with a man I do have a sex drive, and I can maintain an erection, I could cut glass with it and I have plenty of desire.

I have been in counselling and sex therapy for over 10 years, trying to figure out what happened.

It turns out that guys that want to become girls take propecia, amongst other drugs because of it’s feminising effects.

I took it so I could get a Hugh grant hairstyle to get even hotter girls, I didn’t take it to be turned into a girl myself

Before you start, I’m not trolling, I am for real, I want to be married with kids not some sort of asexual freak.

Yes I do blame propecia for this, no I can’t prove it, but I feel like Ive been forced to live a lifestyle I don’t want, because I can no longer function in the lifestyle that I had become used to pre propecia.

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Sexual Orientation Change - I am now gay
#30

This is very interesting. Im 33 years old guy that always liked girls since I was a little child. Never had any clue of homososexual interest until 2 years after propecia.

It has happened to me 2 times, 1 year ago for about a week, and today.

For me today I have been a lot emotional. And I was watching a video on youtube and the man that was talking had a very deep voice, and I felt this atraction for the masculity from my feminim side I guess.

The last time that was last year I found myself looking at male bodies and found them atractive (wtf!). This has never happened to me in the past.

No “sexual” regarding organ sexual or feeling of pleasure, but some interest by my mind that wasnt in the past.

Just a note: Friday I went out and drank a lot of alcohol, yesterday I was edging to porn ( I do that to transform T -> DHT) for 6 hours. I dont know if the alcohol mixed with this long time edging had something to do, but today I felt emotionally I was thinking in my ex-gf relationship a lot.

I know that Im sexually 100% straight now and in the past. But this thing is interesting and should open some investigation on this issue.

Greetings

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#31

Lack of male androgen activity makes me feel feminine

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#32

Hi i’m New in this forum. This topic is very intersting…i only used Propecia for 2 months and after one month i noticed a big shift in my sexual preferences…i’v been always truly interested in woman and after one month of usage i had a big Loss of libido…no more interest in having sex with my girlfriend and it is terrible for me…but what is more terrible is that i started to have strange sensation into my body…i started looking at men and when i looked at them i had like an explosion into my hearth and body…started to have no interest in women and no reaction of my penis…on the other hand Homosexual thought started to pop up into my mind and i had Also Homosexual urges…please believe me this is not a joke…i’m really depressed and scared…i have nothing but love for homosexual people and i’ve never had any problem to have gay friends…but a sudden change in my sexual preferences against my will and desire it’s really strange…

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#33

Hi actually this could indicste that sexual preferences are exchangable via levels of hormones, there has been studies than confirmed these with other hormoemnes, so… How are you feeling right now?

#34

How i feel today? I am totally destroyed…i have homosexual urges…i’m attracted to guys…my life is destroyed…i’m in a very deep depression…i can’t get aroused by a girl no more…i’m very sad…

#35

Dont worry mate you can recover.

Start working with a functional medical doctor and heal your entire body.

#36

Since taking Propecia, I think I am slightly further up the Kinsey scale than before. Whereas before I would have rated myself a 0 (exclusively heterosexual), I would now rate myself a 1. I wouldn’t consider myself bisexual yet, but various events (including very occasional sexual arousal to homosexual acts) have led me to believe that I’m slightly less straight than before, even if to an insignificant degree.

Whether this has to do with the drug or whether it’s a coincidence is yet to proven. Afterall, I’m in my 20s, a period where many people discover more about or experiment with their sexuality. Another theory is that, since my libido has increased since taking the drug (I realise this is the opposite to what most here have experienced), it has made it more likely for me to be sexually aroused by different things in general.

However, given that the drug has been proven to cause sexual sides (including, in my case, gyno), I can’t find it hard to imagine it can affect sexuality too. I wouldn’t necessarily be angry if I was bisexual (who could complain about more sexual opportunities?) but it’s definitely a current topic of interest.

#37

I am gay, since child. I think I was even more gay when I started Finasteride and later Dutasteride.
I stopped Dutasteride 8 months ago, replace it for lupron and estradiol. My libido came back (but sometimes it disappears) and I’ve been … straight for almost 3 months. And it’s disturbing. Because I have a boyfriend and because … I really don’t like “female personalities”.
I want to be gay again.
I could start Dutasteride again, but I think I need to stop it, because of androgen overexpression. Yeah I should quit Lupron and estradiol, but I have big gender issues… I really don’t want to be more manly. At least I’m not ready for that yet. Stopped Dutasteride was already pretty difficult.
It sounds crazy, but I’m not gay anymore. For years just watching an handsome man turned me on, but no it does nothing at all. Only women make me horny. I hate writing this.
You can pretend its all in my head. That I should be happy to be finally ‘normal’ but no for me it’s disgusting to be attracted to women…
I want to take Dutasteride again. But maybe it will worsen my symptoms (eyes/brain/pelvic/scalp/arms/… pain and I need to be cured from PFS.
My libido was almost no existent for at least 10 years, but I was still kinda gay… now my libido is here for 3/7 but I’m straight. Really don’t know what to do.
I would like a ‘cure’ to be gay again.
I tried Pregabalin (read an article about it) but its not really working. I’m going to try high dose (400-600mg), but its not a long term solution.

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Sexual Orientation Change - I am now gay
#38

When did you start finasteride? Never had a sexual thought before related to girls?

Greetings

#39

I started when I was 19.
I had a crush for a girl. But never had sexual thoughts about her, I didn’t realize it was weird to not want sex with her, never crossed my mind.
And … I met a boy and I understood I was kinda gay.
I really don’t like women… Never been attracted to them before.
My boyfriend is supportive but I think about women, its like I’m cheating on him. That’s so weird . i won’t leave him because our relation is precious.
This morning I took Dutasteride again … I really don’t like that but being straight is too disturbing for me. I know its weird.

Sorry for my poor english skills

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#40

Your English seems ok, I will definetly will not take dutas again (drug from hell). I can understand that you have been this way so much time that know it seems strange to adapt… I woukld never have expected gay ->hetero with finas, the other way makes more sense. Also you had a crush with a girl but not wanting to have sex, Im not Freud but how it was the relationship with your mother? :stuck_out_tongue:

#41

Lol. Normal relation with my mother.
It’s just I didn’t have sex feelings for girls. Because of androgen over expression I’m no longer gay. Its so weird. I see a psychiatrist and he doesn’t believe me. Grrrr. I hope Dutasteride, even if its a poison, will make me gay again. Aaaarrgghh that’s so weird to say that.
I even feel more manly, not a faggot anymore lol, I miss that so much.
Sorry if I chock some people here.

#42

Well when more man you are the more responsabilities and things to confront :wink: (and the more success), anyway you can be manly and gay or explore this new world or go back to the old you :wink:

#43

No way. I cant love a woman. And I am in a relationship.
And I was gay, even if I was in love with a girl. I was absolutely gay, kissing boy when I was 6. I was too dumb to understand what that meant to be attracted to boys.

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