Since all this happened I’ve had zero libido, like nothing! Never ever feel the urge to masturbate or have sex and looking at a gorgeous woman does nothing! Yes I’ll think to myself she is pretty but in no way erotic. So fcked up!
It has greatly effected my motivation in life on a really profound level. Lust is what drives men to do everything ( according to Freud anyway ). I think I could live with the rest of the sides but having zero libido is always with you, at least a busted dick only let’s you down when it’s needed for sex.
I don’t feel depressed but rather a sense of pointlessness in life, having absolutely no sense of purpose or will to do anything.
All of a sudden I don’t give a crap about making money, social status, appearance, relationships etc.
I don’t want to die but feeling pointless is the worse thing ever. I just want to sit here until death takes me of natural causes even tho that will take a very long time.
My only hope is to recover libido some time in the future if a cure comes out which I very much doubt sadly. IMO the problem is neurological and the treatment for those disorders don’t exist yet. Many some regenerative medicine will come our in future. I don’t even care about getting with another woman ever, I just want to feel horny again so I can get motivation again.
I’m interested in others peoples opinion on living with zero libido ( never mind the rest of the shit) and what you think about the prospect of a lifetime of never feeling lust again?
I agree totally. I feel the exact same way. I have no desire to have sex with my wife and I don’t believe she understands how bad off I am. As a straight man, I have as much interest in having sex with my wife as I do with another man.
The usual tragic story. I’ll pop a few of these magic hairloss pills and keep my hairless intact. Mild sides on, all hell breaks loose when stopping. Used the poison for a year.
I’m “only” suffering sexual sides now. Numb dick, zero libido, severe ED and loss of size and volume in my package.
In sum, sexual obliteration.
I honestly don’t believe I’ll ever have sex again. Trying to fake enjoyment with a half erect, numb, shrunken dick while my brain perceives a hot woman as arousing as a sack of potatoes is worse than celibacy IMO.
i know exactly how you feel,i got my sexual feelings and drive turned off over six years ago,and for me sex was the greatest thing in life,i can remember very well how it all used to feel,i havent had sex for a few year now,theres just no electricity down there anymore,ofcourse its a fucking tragedy beyond belief and mercke should be well and truly punished for it,BUT you’ve just got to make the best of it until theres a cure,lets hope thats not too far away,but if i have to be like this for the rest of my life then so be it,living half a life is better than being dead thats for sure,i can still enjoy my work,working out,food,my dogs,getting out into the wilderness,the scenery,etc etc,all i mean is theres more to life than sex,obviously i would do anything to get my sex drive back but for the time being ill just have to make the best of it,what else can you do…
The thing is that sexuality and libido permeates everything. If you have no drive then it is difficult to enjoy anything. You loose your competitive instincts. You stop caring about appearance. You stop caring about bettering your career. You stop caring about your hobbies and interests. You have no desires to engage in new things. There is no point to anything.
I miss the feeling of libido so much. It used to drive everything in my life. It used to propel me into so many beautiful situations. It propelled my life. Without sexuality the major force in my life is gone. There is nothing but a hollowed-out husk of a human being.
Yeah, I’ve been a lurker on here for a long while. I currently lift heavy 4 times a week (ex natural bodybuilder) and I’ve taken all the usual crap which supposedly increases libido. Neither put the slightest dent in the lustless force field.
@ robbo: Yes there is to more to life than sex and I’d HAPPLELY live a life of celibacy in the sense that a priest does but it’s the cross over of having zero libido which has broken me.
The pain and distress this has caused me. I don’t even… I don’t think there is a monetary figure which could come close to compensating us for this situation. To think this illness is scarcely even recognised and we get NO help from those responsible. I really hold no judgement on the guys who decide to call it a day on this.
I couldn’t have said it better. This is exactly what I’ve formulated a few years ago when the drug fucked me up. Since quitting that shit I’ve been fighting with the idea of killing myself. Although I’m quite positive and I believe I can defeat every problem IF I HAVE ENOUGH TIME, I’m quite terrified that my best years just go away without being able to really enjoy it. Sometimes I’m like a “bipolar” who fights against the thoughts of suicide hours long when these things come to my mind. This crappy drug fucked up my life in basically every way exactly like you’ve said. Although it definitely become a bit easier since the first year probably because I got used to this shitty “antisocial” lifestyle already.
Despite the very negative (but real) problems we listed I believe that this problem is curable, it just seems to cause so many imbalances in chemistry and biorithm and whatever (even if they are not so severe one-by-one) that cant get better by itself for many people - you have to literally shock and reset your body to eliminate most of the symptoms. I was probably one of the most severely fucked up guys around here. Stopping the drug was followed by 2 braindead years: you know: you just stop the meds and wait for the sides to go away… In my case with dutasteride its half year alone to wait out the half life of the drug… And yes, a few sides (like brainfog) went away while most of the others just got worse and worse (like cold/numb penis, ball ache, terrible sleep, weigh gain, …). All I did for 2 years is literally physical and mental suffering - trying to have at least 3 hours of sleep and then going to do the wage slavery and spending my free time with an empty mind.
Still, after a “successful year” (3-4 years after stopping the meds) all I have is still a little sleep problem (but far not as severe as it was) and libido issues instead an endless list of symptoms. Besides this I’m relatively fresh and instead of having fatty patches everywhere, my upper body is like that of a semi god. Even from the libido side I’m already in better situation than some other guys, sometimes (maybe once in one or two weeks) after a successful night with good sleep I wake up with a medium boner and some low libido, but it would be enough to start a bed hump. And this can be ramped up to a good strong libido relatively easily (I know this because in such a situation I usually jerk off…). The result is very massive boner and good orgasm with shooting ejaculation followed by a good deep sleep of 1-2 hours (just like good old times) - without libido none of these are possible for me. To me this proves that even a guy who was brainded for years without a single erection can be completely functional again, and everything is there.
In the previous year instead of falling into deeper and deeper “depression” I’ve started actively fighting against this shitty situation and turned this whole crap around in many ways in no more than a year. In my opinion there is no such thing as “depression”, if you have goals and joyful activities and basically your life has a point then you don’t even think of the word “depression”. I always think of the word “depression” as a marketing related term used by drug companies and psychologists/psychiatrists to sell their own crap - their meds and services. BTW, do you think that its good for a drug company or psychologists/psychiater if you get better? Its bad business for them so think twice about spending on such crap. I’m writing about this because many guys think that spending on such crap and talking to some of these “professionals” can make things better. Unfortunately its a game only you understand and you will have to play it by yourself, the true power comes from the inside and hopelessly spending money on crappy antidepressants and “professionals” will not help. Decide to turn around your shitty situation and if you have bad mood then decide again to turn around your shitty situation until your suicide or death. That’s it. You know, hope dies last.
I’m rather a realist with a bit of optimism. I’ve decided to either kill myself or use the time I have left in the best possible way. Maybe its time that finally wins and I just get old and tired of this whole stuff and kill myself after several years of fight and wage slavery. But until deciding to do so its much better focus on something good, a brighter future. Even if its hard to think of hot pussies and pleasant fucking sessions around as enjoyable at this moment I know that it is still a possible future hobby/activity! If you decide to do something (like staying alive) then do it well. And remember what Yoda master said: “Do, or do not. There is no try.” Staying alive just for the purpose of vegetation is completely pointless. Don’t commit the mistake I committed in the first two years - the same mistake most of the guys seem to do around here and on other forums: doing nothing and waiting for the magic to happen. See my example, I’ve tried a dozen ways to improve my situation in the last year with quite high success. Most things I’ve tried were unsuccessful (like shitty diet changes alone) but there were at least 2-3 things that definitely helped me to reach up to this point. Improve your sleep, your chemsitry/bloodwork, eat healthy and stress your body with some vigorous exercises and maybe with some short term medication sessions if needed. You can speed up the recovery A LOT - again: A LOT - especially if your recovery rate is zero or negative at this very moment. You just have to find the right tool/method to be able to be able to reach a much higher/better level. It is possible to eliminate very ugly symptoms within a few weeks or months if you find the right trigger! Many guys seem to come here just to ask around: “Has anyone tried this and that?..”, and to some degree I understand it in this situation but everybody should realize that there will probably be no single reliable cure for your complex symptoms. And as you see most of the shitty symptoms can be eliminated within months just by getting out of your cage and doing something and after that it is much easier to address just the remaining few issues.
