Sexologist

General Discussion
#1

So I’ve decided to go see a sexologist … got my first consultation today. He was totally understanding, acknowledge there are physical factors to our condition, and suggested there are ways to improve our situation while waiting for the body to heal.

He said he already had some patients with PFS, but unfortunately, they stopped the therapy so he couldn’t confirm when they actually got better.

Anyways, I pick the sexologist over any doctor / urologist. An hour session with someone who is creative about solutions beats the heck out of a 5 minute session with someone who denies our condition. It may not help me heal, but it certainly helps knowing there is someone there with who I can share what I’m going through.

#2

obvious waste of money/time

#3

Wow, you remind me so much of why I stopped seeking advice from people ! I don’t want to brag about anything but I have been fairly successful in life, and I owe my best decisions to going against what everyone else was warning me about. Of course, this is nowhere near as important, but I think the same principle applies.

All I know is that I fellt better than I ever had in the last 2 years when I walked out of that office. I repeat that it won’t cure me, but that alone is well worth 85$ !

And no need to worry about time and money … I can manage.

#4

do you mind sharing some of the tips you were given. I would be interested in hearing. Ignore the guy that posted two words

#5

Sure. First thing to know is that there is no magic recipe. We have all been looking for a quick fix to our condition because we are all too aware of the mess we are in. But in the last 18 months, I realized that only time could have a sustainable impact and I needed to find a way to keep moving forward in the meantime. Having a therapist would basically keep me mentally sane, while on the road to recovery. Kind of like a caddy in golf. He won’t play for you, but he can give really good hints, be fun to talk to, and ultimately help your game. And let’s be honest, there is no one else to talk to about ED, so it feels very relieving to being able to speak freely about this with someone who does this as their job. Forget about doctors … all they do is prescribe Viagra. At this point, what we need is to try and find a way to feel happy, confident and comfortable.

Also keep in mind that I’m going through hell at home. My spouse has been diagnosed with multiple-sclerosis about 3 months ago and our relationship is down the drain. I have 2 kids in school and I am preparing to move out ! In other words, yes I suffer from PFS, but no, it’s not my biggest problem !! So yes, I need therapy.

This said, the first session has mostly been about myself presenting my problems and situation. The therapist has been basically helpful in acknowledging the problems caused by Finasteride and pointing out different views on the problem. His body language and words were comforting, making me feel like I’m not the first person going through this, we’re not the first couple getting divorced, and that there are solutions for these rough times.

As for ED problems, we will get into more details during the next session, but there are different several ways to “perform” under these conditions.

I will let you know if any interesting topics come up during the next sessions, but overall, I think it’s more about the inter-personal relationship between the patient and the therapist, rather than quick tips that really make a difference.

Cheers!