Relationships & PFS

I just told my girlfriend about my PFS from saw palmetto in 2010 last night. It was cathartic, she was understanding but at the same time kinda taking aback & confused as to why doctors cant sort this out & etc. I told her about my debt from doctors clomid, hcg, anastrozole monotherapy. She cried for a little bit. I asked her has she noticed my decline muscular & sexual & zest for life. she couldn’t tell me different like I said she always thought I had a small flaccid penis. I felt obligated to tell her because I love this WOMAN we been together for 5years & we moved in together 5months now. How have you all been with dealing with this & females/relationships?

It’s like I found the girl of my dreams during a nightmare time

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Glad you told her. Having someone you can rely upon is a great thing.

I told my girlfriend a couple of months in and she’s been wonderful.

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My girlfriend ended our relationship yesterday… Well of course my finasteride low mood has been a drag for the last six months ( noticed it when I crashed only)…
She is very sorry but is not ready to go through this with me…
In a month : PFS crash and girlfriend gone… A heck of a start…
How lucky @Greek. Glad for you mate.

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I told my girlfriend 4/5 years ago when it all started, we’re still together. :+1:t2::muscle:t2:

If it had happened to my girlfriend I would have stood by her. If your former girlfriend isn’t prepared to stick around, she wasn’t the one. Sorry to say it, but it sounds like once you’ve put this all behind you, you might be better off.

I’m not sure if that’s looking too hard for a silver lining, but if you woke up ok again tomorrow, would you want her to come back to you now?

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I would have done the same for her…
You might be right for the fact that it is not a good sign of being " the one"…
For you second statement, things are far too confused to even think about it…
It is clearly not a good sign that she walked away from the stress the condition is causing… And I can be anxious so no blame on her…
It is just hard enough to get PFS so this is just a bit too much…
But as I remember a quote from my favourite series Life On Mars:
You are where you are, you’ve got to make the best of it!

That’s nice. You should have said you made it up, I would have never known!

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That’s good to hear but my relationship is becoming more a burden then stronger. It’s like I got to deal with “this” plus the “what’s wrong with you” “you never want to do anything” etc. I can excuse it some cuz my gf is 7 years younger than me but still. My gf is the type she doesnt understand why people commit suicide I use to tell her just hope you never reach that level of hopelessness.

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Spot on!
That is why I let my gf go…
If she stays to always rant or make you feel you are a burden, you will lose energy- which is much needed with our condition…
Plus being in my forties I have learnt to take care for myself…
The danger is your gf becoming your nurse…
And then you go downhill…
Of course I am sad she left.
But had she stayed and should I get worse, It would have broken my heart even more to let her see me go downhill…

imao youll thank her later for leaving you, in your current state the last thing you need is a girlfriend

Hi ginge.
I didnt read your story and i dont know which symphoms you have but can i ask you how is the sex with your girlfriend and, in the case you have sexual symphoms, how do you cope with them.
Thank you!

My wife of 8 years ended it all after the crash.

I’ve not got round to writing my own bio up yet and have chimed in all over the place instead. The symptoms I had were depression, terrible anxiety, gut issues, no libido, flaccid shrinkage, no sensitivity, and difficulty getting and maintaining an erection or holding any sort of sexual thoughts. Depression and anxiety are gone, sex for the most part is ok/good, sometimes it’s really good like before PFS. Tribulus has become pretty good for libido, at first it didn’t really do much apart from make my plums huge lol. Cialis has also worked well for me and I do still use it but not all the time. I’ve also used L-arginine for sexual symptoms which also helped. I didn’t expect this but acidophilus complex also sent my libido through the roof.

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Light sensitivity and emotional blunting is why my GF left me, i never felt in a loving mood and didnt make her feel loved becayse of it. I could not go to the movies or club or really anything at night because of it.

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My wife who i’d been with 25 years left with my 6 year old son because of the canges PFS brought

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I’m so sorry to hear that mate. That’s awful.

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Same here. Had a short-lived marriage years ago where the ex-wife used emotional blunting as an excuse to cheat and lie about it, saying that she felt alone and unloved. Not as if it was any different than at the beginning of the relationship. The sexual symptoms were more of a shackle that kept me with her after things went south.

A vapid, materialistic, person underneath the sweet personality she presented during the first year. I have someone much better now and I think this condition helps weed the bad ones out for some of us.

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@Dubya_B I know this is probably a stupid question bit do you still have a somewhat sexlife

Barely in recent times. Back then, daily sex was possible without magic blue pills, although I still had ED troubles due to low genital sensitivity and a libido that would feel okay one minute, then vanish into thin air the next. It was more likely for me to not be able to finish or go soft during the act than than it was to not be able to get it up with a few pulls and it was still too much for me to go hook up in a club (a few drinks on a bad day, and I was non-functional), but I could do okay in a steady relationship if I cared enough to please my partner. Had morning wood to some degree more often than not back then too. I went from one of those guys who needed it every day and could go multiple times without taking a break, to that, so it was still a huge psychological shock knowing what some of the competition was capable of.

I think aging in combination with all of these treatments I have tried over the years have finished me off. I’m to the point of popping a viagra once a week to keep my woman happy. On a rare good day, I can function without it, which happened a couple months ago. Maybe morning wood 1-2 times in the past year. Not sure if you consider that a sex life or being functional or not. Pretty sad IMO. Believe me, I sit around in a searing rage for some time every day thinking about how some scumbags at Roche did this to me for the sake of a few hundred dollars and got away with it.

So, I’ve seen what it’s like on both ends of the PFS/PAS sexual symptom spectrum and think if you have at least some function, you should take advantage of it to the fullest while you can. I also believe that it’s over estimated how often sex needs to be had to keep a relationship together.

Can you function with a PDE5i?

I haven’t used one in ages but this 5 year span I have a steady decline. My relationship is 6 years old just moved in a year ago so sex have been frequently to notice a difference. I actually try to avoid sex to “avoid” any more decline which is probably stupid

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