Please dont delete this question as you may think it is irrelevent to this site but i am curious. Would just like to whether any of you guys actually have girlfriends and are able to have a relationships.
I would really like to talk to a girl who works with me, she is very sweet and a nice girl. But the thought of what damage this drug has done is preventing me…
I’m trying to get better and recover before I committ to another relationship. Last one didn’t work out too well…
It’s hard.
My last relationship was a HUGE mistake. Sex is awful for me most of the time, and even when it’s good (which is rare), I’m too busy thinking about how long my erection is going to last to enjoy the experience.
Complicating things for me is a long list of other health problems. I spent too much time with my last girlfriend and neglected taking care of myself as a result.
I don’t plan on dating any women again for a long time.
That being said, I don’t think you can look at someone else’s situation and judge on that basis what things will be like for you. You can always give it a try, start off slow, see how things go. If it gets to be too much, you can break things off.
I’m dating a girl now. She’s aware of what’s been happening and I think through physical interaction I have had positive response in my body from being around and with her. I think the key is to remember we develop more of the emotional bond from sex than women. The key to women is the mind. You’d be surprised what a woman will put up with if you take the time to listen and talk to her.
The longer you spend time with her intellectually and emotionally the better the reaction you will have. Think of it as a long term investment for your body. Even leave sex out at the beginning. Get the girl hooked on being cared about and then start to get intimate and if you are not able to have sex let her know then. And figure out another way to please her.
I know our bodies will take a long time to recover if they do but avoiding something stimulating for the sex drive will not help in the long run I believe. Even if you don’t develop a relationship with the girl I highly recommend finding any woman to spend time with to provoke response from your body. Emotionally or physically. Talk to a friend. Hire a hooker. Get some sort of stimulation.
Sitting idle will not help. Just be open and positive about it, don’t run and hide if something doesn’t work right the first time. Negative feelings provoke stress which hurts us more.
Exactly: emotional bonding, heart sharing, shopping for baby booties, all the crap you wouldn’t touch with a ten foot pole if your p!@$&r was working and you could still throw it out there ! 
Just a joke. Got to keep the spirits up. I’m seeing someone currently, she’s a doc, and natch her reaction to my claims was sceptical, however it is true that women will shine in a crisis, and most are in for the long haul. Despite what we know about the pyhsical cause of our problems, you can’t overlook the toll it tends to take on your psyche.
Can’t be in your own head though. Our problem is gigantic to us, but all empathy aside, it simply can’t have the same resonance with someone who hasn’t experienced it. It might surprise her, but a good girl is not apt to be scared away, she’ll probably take it as liscence, to get all up in your buisness!
Take care.
“hire a hooker,”! Excellent adivce.
The only draw back is the old bank account.
Let’s see what happens to your bank account fixing your body through the medical industry. I bet a hooker every two weeks is NOTHING in comparison…
I might just try my luck with this girl, become friends first and take it slowly. I think some contact has got to be better than shying away and having no contact with women because of fear of what this drug may have done. Its depressing and we cant let this drug beat us. She seems very sweet and understanding enough should i get with her and end up having to open up. I do feel like i can experience love but with the other sexual side of things…thats the concern…
Go for it. Don’t worry about the sexual stuff otherwise it just gets worse. When it comes down to it, just focus on pleasuring her and you may surprise yourself. It is good to have that connection with some one, even if it’s a little off. It’s still better then nothing and should help you on your road to recovery.