Please Help GF....How do I talk to my Boyfriend?

General Discussion
#1

I have been dating a great guy. He really wanted to wait to have sex when we first started dating which I appreciated because I did and still do think he really cares about me. After this continued for a while and “things” just didn’t feel right I began to realize something else must be going on…. Another girl, drugs (real drugs), stress, alcohol, but then I found a bottle of propecia and did the research.

Unfortunately, he does have most of the side effects that are mentioned. I told him I did not think our physical relationship was like it should be HOPING that maybe he would do some investigating into what might be causing this on his own. The pills and the problem persist.

I am scared to tell him I think it may be the meds… he may think I am crazy, I don’t want to do more mental/psychological damage than may already exist, I don’t want this to end our relationship because otherwise I want to be with him forever. How do I approach this? I need help… I care about this guy and would stick around if we started to address this problem TOGETHER. Please help me… what is the best way to talk to him about this? I feel like he has no idea…

#2

Tell him bout this site, have him read through it, and if he wants to continue on the medication despite not being able to perform, sorry there’s nothing you can do for him, it’s ultimately his choice.

#3

Well the truth is it shouldn’t be something to stress about too much, and don’t just go forward and tell the guy to take some clomid crap.

I think that over 80% of guys who take propecia and quit will regain their libido within a month, possibly even with an increased libido because of the rebound, this is something to be careful of though, as it can de-sensitize cellular chemical receptors in extreme cases (I think this is what happened to a lot of us on here).

Basically just corner his ass and tell him you know what’s up, but still show him that you care about him and aren’t really gonna hold it against him, I think he would appreciate this a lot. You also seem like a really nice girl to be doing this sort of thing for him, if someone gave enough of a shit about me to go as far as to go on one of the most fucked up forums on earth to investigate more about me I’d be totally flattered!

Like I said just tell him you know the lowdown on why he’s acting so weird, and tell him you found the bottle and what you’ve heard about it, chances are once he stops taking the pills things will go back to normal in a week.

#4

This is what I responded with just two days ago to a guy in the same situation who found out his boyfriend is taking it, just the same as you. Here is the link, and what I wrote below :
propeciahelp.com/forum/viewt … ight=#5893

ANyway, just my opinion. Just as Softie says, he will probably recover. There’s a good chance he will. And if so, the Clomid may not be needed.
Good luck lady :wink:

#5

Thanks for all the help. My fiancée has agreed to gradually stop taking the meds and go to the doc. I am still scared about how things will work out, but I love him. You all should know that understanding girls do exist out there you just have to be honest with us. Strong and caring relationships can outlast many a crisis.

Does anyone know a good and understanding (about propecia) doctor in the Atlanta area?

Hopefully we will have full recovery by honeymoon time:)

PS I did not tell him about this site… I figured it would upset him b/c it really upset me, but I am glad I found you guys

#6

You say “fiancé”, not “fiancée”, otherwise it means the girl :wink:

trust me i’m french ! :sunglasses: