I’m not as old as some, but not as young as others. While I understand how you feel with regard to the age and subject of conversation, I don’t think age needs to be a great divider here, some people have some good things to say, some less so, and age need not come into that judgement.
You might find that a few older members of the group will come forward if you offer a positive, inviting attitude. “Are there any people over 40 here?” Sounds different to “I’m not interested in what young people have to say”, which, intentional or not is just going to be alienating, maybe you don’t care.
But, I also understand that you need to let off a bit of steam, that things aren’t easy at the moment and you’d like to talk with people who you maybe share some reference points with.
I think we have a problem with retention of people who sign up here. Part of that is the lack of “big picture” thinking and planning and a focus on the individual and an understandable desire for a quick fix. A lot of the forum’s posts are “will taking X fix me?” And the answer, fairly consistently has been “no”. Which is of course disheartening, but is also how a lot of medical communities go, I believe.
If the community doesn’t have any answers to the same question being asked over and over, then it’s likely to have some problems keeping people engaged. On day 500 of logging in, what do you expect to find? Something different from day 499? So, I can understand how we end up losing people who don’t improve, but also those who feel better who leave are part of the picture too, the community is worse off by being one dimensional.
So, I think it’s good that you’ve stood up to be counted as a non- twenty year old. And good that you’ve said you’re having a rough time.
It’s worth remembering that the loudest voices aren’t the only voices and some people stay silent most or all of the time. The number of people posting is dwarfed by the number of people logged in who don’t and that number is matched by people who aren’t logged in. It’s worth trying to encourage people to speak up. I hope that some 50+ year olds will take the opportunity to say how they feel too.
Part of what we all need to do is make a case for those people to actually join up, contribute to the conversation and ultimately the manpower knowledge base, community and support that can be offered and received.
I’ve posted a few times that I feel that Awor and Axolotl really made a difference to me when I was at my lowest point, and that is why I can see the value of community.
To some degree we all have to lead the way to a better future for everyone.