Libido

Symptoms Sexual
#1

Hi, ive updated my member story and the following is cut out from it. Im positing this for advice / comments here just to see what happens too.

Libido… Well of course, its the old propecia story all over again… On the positive its not Zero. Its just not raging sadly. So let me tell a story.

At a work party the other night a girl i knew was leaving. I knew there was the possibility she liked me, and as the people whittled down i was pretty sure we would end up at her place (which we did). So we chilled out (we had been drinking and smoking a bit of weed aswell), we chatted for ages and i engaged in some light stroking of her legs / bum etc. Let me say that this girl was hot, really really hot. Anyway, as the night went on I hadn’t engaged but she lay on the floor. I headed down and we started making out. Things going well, lot of thoughts going through my head. I went for her breast/was pushed away then she put my hand on it. This is unfortunately when things went pear shaped. I didn’t really get more excited, although i was a little cheery. This is the moment when fear kicks in for me, I realize that i should be like “holy crap hand on boob”, but i didn’t. We got back onto the couch, back to rubbing her a bit but nothing else. She ended up going up to bed and i slept there with her in her bed.

Anyway, to end a long story, Next morning, more just chilling out. Let me say that we get on very very well. Shes extremely sexual though, gets guys easy and loves sex. I knew that leaving her place the chance of getting this opportunity again would be low, unless id sealed the deal. So over the last few days my texts have been reciprocated slowly, ive managed to possibly open another window for myself next week (only a chance) as she said she wants to meet again.

Ive been boyed and also dismayed by this experience. Shes freaking amazing, and to be honest i would be too if i hadn’t taken this crap. Ive been working out, eating right, not playing games and doing as much right as i could since that night. Ive felt hopeful that i can beat this and i need to take another serious run at it. Im also fucken petrified that if i get to see her, im just not going to be able to escalate to sex. I just don’t feel that passion to really ravage her and im telling you shes really great. Im also petrified that if i get the opportunity i will just sabotage it before we meet so i don’t have to go through the pain.

Its possible that i can do it. That if the stars align and she wants to meet and im in the right zone, ill make it happen. Its possible still that this could be trans formative for me, the moment i need. I need you brothers, any advice you have… please… Could it be a lot of anxiety / fear at this point? I just cannot give up, i cannot see myself as irreparably damaged. I will try beat this till my dying breath i know that.

I know that was a heavy post… Don’t read into me being totally needy / infatuated btw. If it doesn’t work with this girl, well its not going to kill me. There are other possibilities, but ive gotta keep trying.

#2

If ED is a concern, load up on viagra so your not worrying about it and just remember for all she knows you"re a sex god with a raging libido so just go for it, fake it in places if you have to and enjoy it for what it is and try not to think about what it’s “supposed” to feel like.

#3

Don’t underestimate how much your mental state can effect things. I’ve noticed when I’m like “my shit doesn’t work what am I gonna do” it’s even worse than usual. Try to put it out of your mind.

#4

There are at least two pathways to get an erection - physical and mental (through libido). The two work together the best. Without libido its very easy to get soft during sex in my opinion but it doesn’t mean that physically the plumbing doesn’t work around your cock. I know that my cock works perfectly and I can get very good boners but often I simply don’t have enough libido.

I know that some people are wrecked so much (like I was a year ago) that there are problems even physically (cold penis, totally missing NPT, …) but most people can overcome this relatively easily. The most difficult part is getting back at least some libido - and libido has a huge role in getting a boner easily.

Unfortunately I must say that depending on the severity of your condition you may disappoint yourself a lot if you try to force sex with girls. This happened to me twice a few years ago. If you get better and better then the earliest stage to try sex with girls is where you can masturbate easily and you can turn on at least some libido with masturbation and also you can have an orgasm+ejaculation that is joyful to some degree. If some of these basic building blocks are totally absent then sex just isn’t sex and in worst case you lose the boner easily during sex. With a minimal libido keeping the boner is 100 times easier than with zero libido.

BTW, In my opinion having sex with 50% of my original libido is very good. For me its very easy to control ejaculation/orgasms and it can still be very joyful to have sex. If you have a little nozero libido then sex can be very good, it is rather foreplay and turning yourself on that is a bit more difficult this way. In my opinion getting back just 10% of libido would solve most sexual problems of many guys (like going soft during sex) but getting back just a little libido can be very difficult.

#5

Hey guys,

I really appreciate the replies. Thanks :slight_smile:

I do actually have some libido. Its not huge but it is there. I look at the female form and i am interested. I went out last night and had a good night, and i did drink. Drinking doesn’t ruin me the way it used to. I’m still not going to do it too much though.

Im definately not going to force myself to have sex, but this moment changed me. I was on propecia for 11 years. Every year that passes i do get slightly better. Ive lost heaps of weight with intermittent fasting. Its time to add exercise into the mix as i don’t get enough. Im going to try chase girls again, i have a few options so im just going to have fun and see how it goes.

Cant give up! :slight_smile:

#6

libido is the most importat ıssue that we havent idea to how we boost it

#7

:thumbsup: You seem to be the warrior type like I am. Good luck with chicks! :slight_smile:

I’m also about to “rehabilitate” myself in the near future but for now I’m afraid that my libido wouldn’t be enough to fight against the anxiety that would be there in case of a real action. Fortunately I can also have some libido in “laboratorial circumstances”. :slight_smile:

At this moment I have sex quite rarely only with 2 bitchy girl friends whom I know since the beginning of time and these girls fortunately don’t care if I occasionally have a missing libido and I’m never anxious in their presence. Despite this I hope to be out in the wild a few months later. I’m also using fasting as a recovery tool as it proves to be very effective.