I’ve had bladder problems for the last four years and very similar to what you described… I was on finasteride for almost 10 years before I started getting side effects, the bladder problems were one side effect and when I finally put two and two together (realising that finasteride was causing all my problems), I immediately came off the drug (in August 2019)… I just use some tissue and give it a decent shake at the end which seems to get rid of all or most of it, although it can take a while before i think it’s finally empty… As for it being extremely humiliating, I think alot of men have this problem, even men who’ve never taken finasteride so I wouldn’t stress about it
My bladder problems got worse after I came off finasteride in August 2019… A cup of nettle root tea every morning did wonders and seemed to sort out a lot of my non ED problems e.g. bursting to pee, waking up in the middle of the night to pee and not peeing properly… Then I got covid in September of 2020 and my bladder went to the dogs until early December when someone told me to drink a pint of celery juice every morning on an empty stomach - I did and it helped alot - it’s suppose to be great at detoxifying your system… I took it for a month and the only reason I didn’t take it longer is because I’ve been travelling and it’s not easy to get… My bladder has been really bad over the past month or so… It looks like I’ll be settled in one place now for a while so I’ve just ordered two weeks worth of it and may get myself a juicer… I intend to drink a pint of celery juice every morning for the next 12 months once I get settled and I’m hoping my gut system improves dramatically
Although the nettle root worked wonders for me, any time I mention a supplement someone says it made them worse so each to their own… I am not a doctor but my kinesiologist recommended nettle root
I’ve always thought kegels helped me
Best of luck