I'm going to try to abstain from porn and masturbation to see if I improve

So, its been 17 months since my sex drive disappeared. I havn’t had a single morning erection for about 4 months now. My penis feels detached from my brain – I just can’t get sexually aroused anymore. I’ve seen many doctors and done many blood tests. Nothing has been conclusive.

So I’m going to try a personal test to see if there is some crazy “psychological block” that is affecting me. I am going to try cutting out porn and masturbation completely for as long as I can to see if I will eventually become sexually aroused.

So far, it has been 8 days since I last ejaculated. I have never gone that long in my life. Before I lost my sex drive, I could barely go 48 hours before I would be staring at every girl who walked by.

Has anyone else tried this? Do others agree that if you stopped masturbating for over 2-3 weeks that you would eventually be extremely sexually aroused or at least have a wet dream? My thoughts are that if I don’t ejaculate for over 3-4 weeks and I STILL am not sexually aroused in any way, then something is DEFINITELY physically wrong with my body, and that this ordeal is not psychological.

When I was visiting family this summer out east for 2.5 weeks, I didn’t wack it the entire time. I did not feel any buildup in libido, sadly.

However, when I returned home, a day later I forced myself to masturbate and found I was able to get post-Fin hard and “turned on” (as much as we can, post-Fin) a bit easier than normal… in addition, the orgasm was much more intense than I usually experienced post-Fin, as well as the volume of ejaculate was increased.

So, abstaining from masturbation may lead to an increased “high” when you finally do orgasm, but in my case the libido did not improve during my abstinence.

Yes, I’ve noticed this too. After abstaining from masturbation for a while, my sensitivity is better and orgasms are more intense (as expected, but its not even close to pre-fin intensity), yet my libido just won’t build up anymore.

Sexual arousal is never spontaneous anymore, I have to force it. Wow, so frustrating.

At my worst I have gone MONTHS without masturbating or even thinking about it at that. What would happen to me would be wet dreams. I’d blow a load right in my shorts, without even being hard. I never thought that was possible, but it is. This is how I finally realized something else was definitely wrong with me. Now, I routinely masturbate, a couple times a week just to keep things moving down there.

I have tried this. My libido/erections built up massively after 2-3 weeks, lasted for a week, and then unexpectedly went back down. I’ve been cycling like this the last 8 months, with my periods of awesome erectile function maybe, but not sure, gradually coming more frequently, but still with these limp noodle periods in between. It’s incredibly frustruating and depressing. I’m not sure if I become anxious that I will lose my function during periods of good function, and this causes the limp noodle, or if the limp noodle causes my depression and anxiety. ANyone have thi happen?

i know this is an old topic, but for me refraining from masturbation is the only that regularly helps my overall feeling get better

If i don’t masturbate for two weeks or more, what happens is my penis sometimes turtles up, and I feel like nothing in my nether regions for a few days, but then it fluctuates, a few days like this, a few days a little better. I feel pressure in my prostate area, which i think is a buildup of the extremely clear liquid that is a component of semen.

During this time, I feel like my sleep is better, I feel hornier (but without strong erections), and there are no issues with feeling a dull ache/pain in the prostate/pelvic floor region.

When I finally do masturbate the load is a huge watery mess, sometimes perfectly clear, sometimes dark yellow, and then it like kickstarts a very slight recovery period for me that lasts like a week. Sometimes it starts as soon as i masturbate, sometimes within a day or two. My erections, libido, cloudiness and thickness of sperm increase, how many times a day i can masturbate, etc. all improve during this time, but of course are maybe only half of pre-fin strength. Eventually it comes back down.

What does this mean? There is probably an increase in testosterone during periods of abstinence, and finally jerking it keeps the androgen levels high for awhile? I wonder if this can add any ideas to any of the leading theories we have

I’m in a bad place with this disorder mentally right now, so i’m abstaining. Maybe I can make it a month. Currently at like a week and a half.

Incidentally, at least two of the three times i recovered fully on fin, and during my most recent temporary recovery, it was during periods of no masturbation. The first time I quit fin, three months had gone by without a return to normal. I was freaked out, I went on this summer program that toured around my ancestral homeland. I was so freaked out by the lack of erections, libido, watery sperm, I decided to just not masturbate at all. I remember by the 4th week it became pretty difficult not to, and then finally the last night of the program I just HAD to. Sexual thoughts were coming non stop, and in my imagination I could “feel” every girl I was imagining. Not like now where i can get a picture in my mind but I can’t imagine the actual feeling. I remember once I erupted, I noticed that it was thick semen. I remember right after this, i realized i was completely recovered. Soon my hair started falling out, I felt sexual attraction non stop, morning wood was back. Too bad i didn’t give up the poison right there. Went back on a few months later when I got freaked about my hair. Vain idiot.

Anyhow I wonder if abstinence helped or if it was just coincidental. I remember recovering one time without a long period of masturbation. But I recall that first time, being so freaked out after 3 months. Ha, i’m approaching 3 years post dutasteride, and things are just getting worse.

So I refrained from masturbating for about 2.5 weeks.

When I finally masturbated last Wednesday, there was almost no sensation and a lot of very watery dark yellow jizz came out. Very watery, as in the whole tissue around the jizz was absorbing water, the water line spread out from the center

Anyway, afterwards, I didn’t feel much different, but about 24 hours later, I started feeling a lot better. Sexual thoughts were coming to me easier and I just felt more clear headed, although the firmness of my erection was still an issue but slightly improved

On Friday night I started having to urinate really badly and really often. Like 3 times in one hour with urgency. The next morning, I had pretty decent morning wood and I really urgently needed to urinate once I woke up. I wonder if the temporary benefits of not jerking off caused my prostate to grow. Later in the day the frequent urgency to urinate started to die down, as did the random occurrence of sexual thoughts

I’m not sure if prostate issues are the root of the problem or just something affected by the root of the problem, but it was interesting to me. If anything this would indicate that some of us have smaller than normal prostates, and when it grows larger or gets inflamed, maybe the body takes that as a signal to lower the T or increase the E or I don’t know

I’ll be cutting out masturbation and porn for awhile and we’ll see what if any effect this has on libido and erection quality

Have a look at yourbrainonporn.com - fascinating read.

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how are you today?

Oh wow this was so long ago. I’m much better now compared to those days. I think I’ve written about where I’m at in some of my posts about trying to get back in the dating scene. I’d say right now for about the last few weeks I’ve hit a lower period as in the sides are a little worse but I still think I’m much better than where I was. Like if I needed to have sex I think I could even without the help of about sex needs but I wouldn’t be at full size or full enjoyment and I might get too distracted and get out of the moment. There have been times over the last 6 months where it would have been much much better and easier. Time did indeed help in my opinion

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My issues turned out not to be related to Propecia at all. It was related to desensitization from excessive porn use. I’m normal now. Took me 1 year and 8 months of abstaining from porn to recover to normal. Make sure to abstain completely from porn for 1-2 years before you look into propecia side effects.

Good for you, but obviously this is not what the vast majority of people here are dealing with. But for the lucky ones who somehow ended up here owing merely to visiting porn sites too often, congratulations.

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There is really no evidence base linking sexual dysfunction to porn use alone, and few medical professionals or certified sex therapists will suggest changes to porn use in response to ED complaints. YourBrainOnPorn misrepresents the state of the science here - the only study they have that truly supports a link was done by Gary Wilson himself and is hotly contested.

Were your genitals numb and shrunken too and has that resolved?

Yes, genitals were extremely numb. Not shrunken, just weak erections, which can look as if the anatomy has decreased in size. Everything has resolved. Again, I don’t recommend porn if you have erection problems. It can exacerbate your problem.

There is in fact a widespread epidemic of porn-induced erectile dysfunction that has been quietly spreading for the past 30 years. I suspect the vast majority of men under 50 with erection and libido problems are affected by porn use. The connection between the two is obvious for me personally. And the science of down-regulation of dopamine receptors in the reward pathways in your brain makes sense. Anyways, maybe this is not the case for you. But thank God I identified this issue instead of chasing an irrelevant issue for years. If there are people in this thread that use porn, but continue to suspect other sources, then they may benefit from eliminating artificial sources of sexual arousal for 1-2 years. Then reassess afterwards. Good luck!

When you say numb, do you mean it didn’t feel sexual, or that the skin of of your genitals had literally no sensation? Or both?

My shrinkage is most prominent in flaccid state, so it’s got nothing to do with EQ.

By numb I only mean decrease sensation during sexual stimulation. Not decrease sensation to touch in general.

Glad you feel better. My numbness feels like my junk was injected with an anaesthetic. :frowning: