Indeed, not flexing does seem weird innit…but one day I just decided to try something else and it worked. Constantly flexing the muscle (which is basically just doing a kegel) led me to develop PE, which sucks when you’re trying to get down with a fine lady. Happens to the best of us
I think I originally read about this technique on the NoFap website, where a user reversed his ED. Sounded good to me and I’ve been doing it ever since.