I am confused and saddend.
I am 31, experienced first side effects almost 5 years ago. Stopped Fin more than 3 years ago (way too late, because i was fucking stupid) and nothing really changed.
Sexual Sides are the worst part for me. Almost no Libido, only way to keep it hard (if so) with Cialis and Sildenafil. Viagra sides are really annoying. I cant enjoy sex anymore. As soon as i change positions theres huge chance it gets soft. Its hard to cum, or i feel like cumming really soon when im pumped with Viagra. Theres no to little sensitivity in my dick. How can i actually sexually pleasure a woman in my condition? Where is this supposed be going? I dont wanna spend my life like this. I dont like the idea of taking skat, honestly the only way out of this would be a penile implant. I dont see any other realisitic option to live happy in the next few years.
It sucks so bad meeting girls I like, when im afraid of intercourse. Its a fucking dark situation.
Im sure noone would recommend an implant for me, but my life doesn’t feel lifeworthy at all like this. Somethings gotta change… soon. I dont want to live like this anymore.
I’m so very sorry to hear of your pain
Unfortunately we’ve all experienced this to caring degrees and we’ve all shared the same thoughts and feelings as well
At the moment all I can tell you is while your thoughts and feelings are valid
You mustn’t give up
You have a duty to yourself to stick it out and hang on for what may very well be a treatment in time
Maybe even sooner than later
This is a very difficult and complex situation to speak on in one post
However there does seem to be more positivity and definitely more scientific progress than ever before
Something may very well come down the pike soon
Maybe a couple to few years idk but no one can say there isn’t potential for great things to happen
And like some have said, we’d be the happiest guys in the world
So if you need a reason to believe and hope
Then that’s it
In the meantime, try try TRY to focus on little things that make you happy. Anything
Things fin can’t take away
I realize what I’m asking of you and it’s very easy to let these problems affect everything else and ruin it
But you must try
You have to…you must
We are here for you
Stay strong brother
Damn man I didn’t even read your name
I feel like I was supposed to read your post and answer
I absolutely love that song and how I found it and how it moved me is a nice little story for me if you care to listen and who knows maybe it’ll help
Idk here it goes
Early Jan last year I decided to move south after 35 years. I needed a new start. Dealing with fin issues for 15 years or so, other personal stuff, leaving my job because of 2020, father died in 2021…it’s just been a lot. So I took the opportunity to get away hoping it’d workout.
Somehow I decide to drive down south during a massive snowstorm that shutdown 95 so badly nobody could move for states long.
The snow was unbelievably bad, ppl stuck in cars etc.
anyway numerous trials and tribulations along that journey down but eventually I found myself at 2am somewhere in Virginia
Pitch black, all power lines were down
I had just wokin up from sleeping in my freezing car because all hotels were packed with ppl leaving 95.
I’m driving down these Icey road in the absolute dark
Not safe lol but I’d had it.
All I had was the radio really. And of all the stations this song I never heard comes on
Beautiful melody and everything
Then this kart kicks in
“They got catfish on the table
They got Gospel in the air
Reverend Green, be glad to see you
When you haven’t got a prayer…
But boy you got a prayer in Memphis”
Oh man was I moved to a couple tears
I can’t describe it better honestly.
Just me traveling in the cold dark alone
With the beautiful amazing song
Made me feel like there was hope
And after everything I went through
If that song in that moment made me feel so good that it became a find memory of hope
Well then I guess all was not lost
And maybe just maybe…we all have a chance
I rambled I know
I just felt compelled to share
I hope that helps
thanks for you respond and your story. that was touching!
i admire your positive attitude and don’t even want to put myself in this self pity position.
im often a very optimistic person. but in this situation my realistic, rational mind tells me something different.
for me life is about loving, about having deep connections to person you have great feelings for.
pfs cuts this out without mercy. i cant grow as a person, not only talking about the sexual or relationship aspect here. my friends experience new chapters in their lives which arent available for me yet. so this close bonding i usully had to them is not so close anymore, because we cant talk about the same things anymore. theres this barrier, the deep talks are gone and of course i feel ashamed for being often isolated because of this. the lonelyness is fucking me up.
im realizing the media is more open to pfs, some more researches will come up. but to be honest its nothing to hang on. i cant live year in year out in the hope that someone might will come up with something. i did this for too long, and i dont want it for another 5 years.
I totally understand that barrier between friends and them moving on
I receded a lot from all of them because they wouldn’t understand and even if they did part of me didn’t want them to
And I truly hate having to live with this in mostly secret but I’m lucky enough to have a best friend who I told and she is really accepting and understanding but I digress
And I I see why you don’t want to deal with this for 5 years or however long
But you must my friend
It may be shorter and you’d be cutting yourself short