Almost divorced

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#1

I thought my partial recovery was going to help support my family, but everything changed months ago. I feel that it is increasingly difficult for me to maintain an erection. I have to masturbate 10 minutes before and wait for my wife naked. Then comes premature ejaculation. I have not used a condom for 1 year and she has not become pregnant (we have a pre-finasteride daughter).
It has been my decision. She is not leaving me. I just want to get rid of the challenge of having sex.
I left the drug 26 months ago.

Cialis 5 mg worked the first month but now its like water.

sorry about poor english

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#2

Take 150mg of Viagra and dont eat for 3 hours before or after.

Or get a penis implant.

#3

Maybe you should talk to your wife.

If she doesn’t know what you’re going through, you should tell her.

I’m not suggesting that your problems are psychological, but because you’re so concerned about what’s going on, it’s possible that it’s a contributing factor. Worrying about having problems is likely to contribute to you having problems.

I have had premature ejaculation through this, pleasureless orgasm and erectile dysfunction.

All these things have resolved with time, but I still stress about it sometimes.

I haven’t been dealing with it as long as you, and I’m not telling you what will or won’t happen but it’s possible for things to get better.

If you haven’t spoken to your wife, you really should.

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#4

We have had a fluctuating relationship not only for finasteride, I should say. But we solved things in bed.

She believes that it is mainly psychological. “You have nothing, it’s all in your head.” And if I think I have something physical “just ask a doctor.” “All your blood tests are fine.”

The weird thing is that when I was taking finasteride she, who is a nurse, told me “your healthy prostate is receiving a drug for a sick prostate, it will harm you.” She was fucking right. I am nearly sure that we have a smaller prostate after finasteride.

Cialis worked very well when I got worse at the beginning of the year, but it’s not enough anymore. I don’t know if my condition worsened or if my body got used to the drug.

#5

I hate it when women tell me to “just see a doctor”, as if I haven’t and as if I don’t sit and patiently listen to their daily problems all the damn time without complaint, but then the one time I mention one little thing it’s a dismissive “I told you to just go to the doctor”.

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#6

@Mistaker here’s a book that shows some exercises to prevent premature ejaculation

http://bit.ly/2VyFEjM

Is your T low? Can you post your current hormone levels?

#7

Yeah, people are selfish aren’t they! Even the ones we consider our closest ones, in a difficult moments for us they tend to be dismissive and careless only because it turns out that it is not their problem and they show it in the most arrogant way possible…

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#8

As long as I am fighting or coping with this wife is with me. When I get depressed or moan about good old days I lose her.

Even the closest ones will never understand the emotional pain and suffering especially when docs say “everthing is normal”. Best not to expect any colsolation but keep and look strong and even act like everything is normal with the aid of drugs or whatever else works for you.

Everybody wants a normal life. Nobody wants mutants like us. (Sorry watched xmen yesterday.)

#10

Finally my wife is pregnant. In one of the many attempts to prove my sexual performance against the PFS I did it. I thought I had become sterile because of the drug, but after 2 years of having sex without a condom (I can’t use it because of lack of sensitivity) it has happened.

This improved our relationship a bit and she seems excited (we have a pre-finasteride daughter). I hope the pregnancy brings LESS SEX, at least for a few months. I’m tired of having poor erections, really.

Of course my parents now say “did you see that drug has not done anything wrong to you?”

Edit: I appreciate your support.

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#11

I’m happy for you, it’s wonderful news. Being pregnant will certainly relax your wife and divert her attention to the future baby. What will allow you to blow …

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#12

My T levels are normal according to doctors. :

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#13

try mixing beta blockers with cialis

#14

why is that that we get premature ejaculation from pfs ? before i needed 5-15 min to orgasm but now i come within seconds …

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#15

Congrats man! :slight_smile:

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#16

That’s the problem, normal is a wide range.

It depends on if you’re on the lower end or higher end or the range.

Congratulations on getting your wife pregnant.

#17

Congratulations…

Have you had a spermiogram recently?
In early stages of SP + accutane hit my sperm were still very good. After a couple of years aazospeemia - not enough of them moving. Only suggestion was IVF and we are still struggling.

#19

Try HCG, I read the BB boards of people on TRT who have gotten their wives pregnant using HCG.

#20

I am not on TRT.
HCG helps keep testes during TRT, true. Otherwise they will atrophy.

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#21

Amigo, yo soy de Chile, y te digo con todo mi corazon: Felicidades.
Felicidades en que no te separaste ante esta tormenta tan dura y desatroza - a pesar de este sindrome misantropico que puede quebrar hasta al más fuerte de los hombres, lograste crear vida ante un fuego en un bosque y sin bomberos cerca.

Se que las cosas se ponen dificiles con este sindrome Mistaker, pero tienes que darte cuenta que esto se puede resolver y el proceso de resolver esto no es simplemente un ejercisio intelectual para encontrar una pastilla magica o algun estudio que compurebe que tal factor bioquimico es a, b o c; esto requiero alma, cuerpo y mente. Yo honestamente intentaria buscar algun foro para tener una retroalimentacion del problema mas sana ante esto y, en cierto grado hasta mas objetiva.
Amigo, ultimamente he estado leyendo un libro de victor frankl - “Un hombre en busca de sentido” - , en grandes trazas, se centra sobre un psiquiatra (Cuando la psiquiatria no era ser un dispensador de pastillas lol) que termino en un campo de concentracion. Dado a esto, consigio crear la Logoterapia
ÂżQue es la logoterapia? Se centra en un proceso de buscarle sentido a la vida.
Realmente, si tienes la capacidad de leer en estos momentos (Lo cual creo que pareciera ser de esta forma viendo que tienes un muy buen ingles y redaccion) intentaria descargarme el PDF.
Es una lectura bastante corta pero fuerte. La wea te agarra.

Mistaker, felicidades.
Intenta celebrar de alguna manera - te lo mereces.

#23

I’ve used HCG independent of TRT as well, you can use it on a low dosage without TRT, but it will shut down your system.