testing oneself?

General Discussion
#1

It seems like daily, I test myself physically so to speak, masturbating to make sure I am functioning correctly. It is a compulsion definitely. Since there isn’t a terribly strong signal to WANT to do this I just do it.

It stresses me out. Some day I am feeling pretty good and some days if i’m nervous or too hung up on the act I can’t finish and get frustrated and get depressed. I can’t continue on like this. Don’t know if i should see a sex therapist or just “handle” (no pun intended) the situation buy myself.

Does anyone else experience this? Any thoughts on how to handle? It eats me up.

#2

Bro, you’re obsessing. I know this whole thing is extremely fucked up, but it is what it is.

If you don’t feel like spanking it, DON’T. Just do what you feel like. You can’t finish because you’re not really into it. Stop worring about it. Worrying is a useless emotion and it doesn’t solve any problems, it just makes things worse.

Make sure you eat right, exercise and supplement. Things will start to come back slowly.

STOP OBSESSING.

#3

Thanks CD and yes I know I’m obsessing but most of the time I really don’t care about jerking off, I just do it for maintenance purposes which puts me in this obsessed mode. When things are functioning well, its great and I am fine…

Worrying obviously makes functioning worse but its just so fucked up. I want to be able to have the peace of mind that I am functioning normally…

#4

But you do want it once you touch your unit and it gets erect, right?

#5

yeah i do and it feels good when I finish but its more of a matter of getting the act done just to get it done…

When i worry and obsess my dick doesn’t work as well…

#6

Almost seems like addict behavior. It sucks because things should be different. I do the same thing. I’ve forced myself to stop though, at least no more than once every 2-3 days, preference on the latter. It just uses up the good feelings that I have.

Did you try to replace it with exercise? Liek when you want to masturbate or start obsessing just go for a walk.

#7

MArtin,

That is exactly what it is, an addiction. It’s ridiculous. Yeah I need to replace the behavior with something else once in a while.
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#8

been feeling a lot better recently, some hint of libido and whacking off with impunity and doing it while actually horny. Been using the zinger more and am in a better mind state.

I cannot stress how important a good healthy mind state is to sexual function. Also been missing my g/f as she is finishing up her schoolwork in another state. Dying to bang the shit out of her…

Confidence is soo important adn I feel a LOT of us from time to time lack in this department and it makes all the difference in the world…

#9

Confidence = Man, IMO. Yes, it is a far reaching feeling that has more control over all aspects of our life whether we believe it or not. Keep wearing that zinger and popping those supps, you shouldn’t have any problems in that dept. then.

#10

It is soo TRUE. I feel a lot better and not coming to this site as often helps me too. I used to be brimming with confidence and it had taken such a hit that I would avoid certain situations becasue I was so stressed about my own situation.

I saw women on the avenue where I live this past weekend and it just made me want to fuck them. It just made me feel better, there is more of a pulse there now.

Thanks CD.