Hey @jrums01,
I am so sorry to hear about the tremendous difficulties you are facing! I know you are here because of your sexual issues but for someone who has been on antidepressants for so long you may also be experiencing issues related to protracted withdrawal as well, which for a while can be even worse or at least more acute than the sexual dysfunction issues. (I hope nobody gets offended by the comparison). I know because I have been there.
Just like in the case of finasteride up-regulating androgen receptors, SSRIs physically change the brain as serotonin receptors get down-regulated. After stopping the drug, the brain is in severe serotonin deficiency for a very long time, and that’s just the physical side of things, nothing to speak of the psychological one. I would recommend you check out the survivingantidepressants.org forum as well.
Hang in there! You are not alone.