If you have libido issues but are still able to have sex...

General Discussion
#1

Can you tell me what it is like to have sex? My wife and I are going to start trying to have sex again after a few years of not, because of my libido issues and some relationship issues. I’m pretty nervous that I won’t enjoy myself at all, which could have really negative ramifications on our marriage in general. But I’m still able to have orgasms and maintain an erection (for which I’m grateful).

So anyway, if you’re able to have sex, if your pre-PFS sex experience was a 10, what would you describe your post-PFS experiences to be like? I’m just wondering what to expect. Thanks.

#2

On a scale of 1-10 maybe a 3 or 4 (on a good day). No libido means I have to rely entirely on physical stimulation to “keep it up” most of the time. Wearing a rubber makes it damn near impossible.

#3

Wow, that sucks man. Makes me nervous b/c although I think I block out a lot of stuff from before I knew I had PFS, I remember sex being unenjoyable too. Shit. No condoms at least for us- that’s a relief.

#4

Anyone else? Would really like to hear general thoughts/experiences.

#5

I still have some libido and are able to have sex. Well, the last time I had sex with my GF my Penis was still a bit numb. For her and me the sex was realy good, my orgasem was great and she also had a lot of fun. Dont worry about this to much just do it. Anyway, there are 1000ways to make a woman happy. Dont think of this to much and dont worry about that, just let it flow.
Enjoy her body smell her feel her, think of it, it has been a long time for you and now its time to start again. I just can say: have fun!!!

#6

Intercourse is a small part of the overall experience. I agree with Brainbug, focus on the many other aspects of intimacy before and after intercourse, she’ll appreciate it far more.

#7

what’s sex?

#8

When I said 3 or 4 I meant for me. I pop a Cialis and since pfs causing me numb dick I can go forever, basically… = good for her.

#9

Ha! Same thing for me.

#10

My sex is almost over, anyway I don’t care about sex, my other health issues are far more serious.

#11

does Cialis work good? does it work longterm too?

#12

i went for a year without having sex with my partner recently until we went on a spanish holiday (vacation) and we had sex 4 times that week,maybe the relaxation of the sun sea and sand???,when i do go for long periods without sex and then have sex i think to myself why dont i do this all the time it feels ok,trouble is ive no desire anymore,in my first year after my crash i would have some really hot women back to my house and id be layed there receiving oral sex and thinking why dont i feel anything,they might aswell have been sucking my knee cap,i could feel nothing,yet before pfs getting sucked off by a woman would send me cockeyed,into a delirious state almost,if i had any sexual problem before pfs it was i would get too exited by female flesh,i remember back before my crash my gf at the time would come in from work with her office wear on, white shirt, skirt, stockings, sexy specs etc and i would only have to lay my hands on her and i would get penile discharge and almost be salivating i was that exited and turned on,sadly these days im numb and all that is just memories…