I can masturbate, but not have sex

Symptoms Sexual
#1

My side effects are no libido and severe erectile dysfunction. That being said, I still masturbate a few times a week - I feel the urge to ‘get it all out’ if you know what I mean - but things are way more difficult that they used to be before taking finasteride.

When it comes to actual sex, on the other hand, I can’t get anywhere! I mean I have nothing going on, it is a completely different feeling. I will be naked with a naked girl and there’s nothing - no feeling down there.

Why is this? Can anyone relate to this?

I have thought if I can just get my head right when I’m doing the real thing, maybe I can actually have a little intercourse, but the heavy manual stimulation from my own hand is the only thing that works.

#2

You will be destined to fail if your head isn’t right. You need to have a positive mindset and relax. Pop a viagra and try to let things happen. If you can whack off, you should be able to have sex.

I know this situation hass caused undue mental anguish as I deal with this everyday but you need to get over your mental impasse.

Drink a glass of red wine. If you’re too nervous nothing is going to happen.

#3

You’re a masturbate addict. Stop wanking and you’ll see how horny you will get while being with a girl. I have had similar experiences, but I’m 99% sure they are psychological. I’m totally turned on and erect until it’s time for real action – then I just get scared or something.
Sex is a mental thing.

#4

if it is psychological, why is my penis very light even when it is flaccid? it is light, like it is empty inside. also erections are soft, can be bent, and the head doesnt get hard.

This is a damn nightmare
#5

If you can still have good erections while masturbating, there’s no erectile dysfunction. It proves that, if you are not stressed and don’t try to prove yourself to anybody (your girlfriend for example), you can still have quality sex. You just have to relax and get rid of the psychological error you have with yourself.
If their soft all the time, then that’s another matter, sorry.

#6

Dude I know the feeling… I am in the exact same situation. I can keep my erection going when Im jerking off because I am focusing on my own cock with my own thoughts going through my head…

I don’t know if you’re like me, but when I stop thinking sexually and I take my hand off my cock, my hardon flop adn I have to work it up again.

I can’t get anywhere with a girl because how cool it to be with her and continually jack my cock to keep it going??

I’ve been assisted by viagra. Thats been the only way I’ve been able to perform with another.

Tonight, I had plans to go out and meet a girl that I know and have been with before, I had one pill left at the bottom on my jean pocket, I tossed them in the wash… its gone. I have too much perforance anxiety to even go out and meet up with her now. I’m staying home. :frowning:

#7

This is an important point. Mine has been very light too. Just like the muscles. I didn’t realize how much until I started taking megadoses of Vitamin D last week and I regained all the proper weight. It was at least double of what has been the norm after fin. It was also less fibrotic, I could bend it perfectly back on itself with no pain, and when I sat down I didn’t look tiny or feel like it was sucking into my pelvis. Unfortunately the change didn’t last :frowning:

The light and fibrotic penis is a definite sign that something is wrong.

I’ve also noticed that masturbating at all kills the ability to have sex on average. The tank runs dry, so to speak.